Holiday season is a hectic time for anybody due to the preparations, for getting ready to travel enjoy holidays and family get together.But enjoying this much awaited time of the year is definitely a challenge for those who are not able to get along well with others as nobody is perfect.
Diverse personalities, family circumstances, values and lifestyles are mentally & emotionally disturbing factors for some people to interact even with extended family members. Given below are some basic tips for you to overcome relationship problems:-
- Self-care is the first step to keep your internal stress low.
- Eat healthy foods, and have adequate sleep before your departure. Allow plenty of time to feel relaxed.
- Remind yourself that family get together during holidays is a brief departure from your normal life. Remind yourself that you are mentally prepared to handle gracefully with anyone.
- Bring in to your mind to feel pity over unhappy family members rather than anger and sadistic towards them. Unhappy family members are those who might be pessimists, jealous, resistant to change, self-pitied and criticizing others destructively.
- Persons who have the character of excessive self-love, non-stop talker or chronic complainer will never change. It is easy to get out of them, if you are in large group of members or spend very little time to keep your stress level low.
- To keep yourself in good mood, invite a good friend along for mental support or stick with any easy going relative during the event.
- Show common courtesy to everyone regardless of how you feel about them.
- If you cannot manage any more politeness towards a particular person, find a reason to excuse yourself and move on.
- Use humor to defuse tension but do not make jokes at anyone's expense.
- Most Important. Be sensitive to relative's situations & family circumstances. For example, do not make an abnormal display of enthusiasm about expensive items you possess to your family members who might be financially unsound.
- Don't try put down others or bring up past mistakes or unpleasant occurrences.
- Engage Your relatives by inquiring about something meaningful to them like about their children, work or hobby.
- Breathe deeply if you feel stressed. It it does not work out, head to the washroom or step outside for some fresh air to feel free.
- In spite of your above efforts, if you feel uncomfortable, as a last resort, you can cut-short your visit citing another commitments.